Friday, April 4, 2008

This is important information for females of ALL ages .
When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady
friends, but I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men
friends have female friends and this information is too important to
miss someone.

Please pass it along.

A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed
on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some
interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is
HAIRSTYLE. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail,
bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also
likely to go after a woman with long hair . Women with short hair are
not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is CLOTHING. They will look for
women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry
scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women ON THEIR CELL PHONE, SEARCHING THROUGH THEIR PURSE, or doing other activities while walking because
they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the EARLY MORNING,
between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is
Number three: is public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a
woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to
worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5
year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize
that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they WOULD NOT pick on women who have
umbrellas , or other similar objects that can be used from a distance,
in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really
close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to
convince these guys you're not worth it.

10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an
elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question ,
like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is
so cold out here," "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their
face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in
front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man
talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that
she would not be afraid to fight back . Again, they are looking for an
EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge
advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes) , yell I HAVE
PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with strength but
you can by outsmarting them If you are grabbed around the waist from
behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and
armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD .

One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the
underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset
she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed
stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can
stand it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN . I know from
a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it
is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make
him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of
trouble. Start causing trouble and He's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you , grab his first two
fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure
pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without
using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles
cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be
aware of your surroundings , take someone with you if you can and if you
see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!
You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much
worse if the guy really was trouble.

1 . Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The ELBOW is the strongest point on
your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a
robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM . Toss
it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in your
wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the
back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like
crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,
eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a
list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this
is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put
a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE
OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into
anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will save you. If the person is
in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car
crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body
in a remote location.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or
parking garage:
A.) Be aware: Look around you, look into your car, at the
passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the
passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling
them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their
C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle,
and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest
your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a
guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE
THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells
are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is
especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control,
ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100
times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN,
preferably in a ZIGZAG pattern.

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It
may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a
good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of
unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked
"for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he
abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend
heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called
the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police
told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door. "The lady then said
that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was
worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The
policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO
NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a
baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes
thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified
it , but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's
cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night. Please pass
this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ---- This should be
taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on
America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial
killer in Louisiana.